A Guidebook of My Wishes
A diagnosis of dementia changes many things, but it does not erase your voice or your choices. This book is a place for you to pause, reflect, and share what matters most – so the people around you can honor your wishes with clarity and love.
Inside, you’ll find space to write about what brings you comfort, what you hope for in your relationships, and how you want to be supported in daily life and in care. These pages are not about loss, but about holding on – holding on to your values, your preferences, your humor, your stories, your favorite things, in sum – your way of being in the world.
Think of this as a map you are drawing for those who love you. It points to what matters most, so they can walk beside you with confidence. You are still the author of your story. These words ensure your desires are heard, respected, and remembered.
Dr.Vanessa Schaeffer
About ME
Hello! I'm Dr.Vanessa Schaeffer.
I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in working with older adults and the people who love and care for them. I am also an appointed Advisory Board member for the Beyond Dementia Coalition.
As an official Psypact provider, I see clients via Telemental Health, so you can access my services from the comfort of your own home. Research shows these sessions are just as effective as in-person care, with easier access.
As a Geropsychologist (someone who specializes in treating adults age 65 and older), I am part of a very small group of providers with this focus. In fact, only 1.2% of Psychologists describe their specialty as Geropsychology. In order to be able to meet the needs of this population, most of my work with you will be time limited.