AGING WELL

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Hello! I'm Dr.Vanessa Schaeffer.

I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in working with older adults and the people who love and care for them.

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"Life is made of ever so many partings welded together."

-Charles Dickens

Reflecting on the Year Past and Welcoming the Year Ahead

As the days grow shorter and the calendar edges closer to December 31, it’s natural to feel a mix of emotions. For some, this time of year brings the warmth of holiday cheer and gatherings with loved ones. For others, it can feel bittersweet—a reminder of how quickly time flies, how much has changed, and perhaps even how much has been lost. Wherever you find yourself this season, I invite you to take a moment to pause and reflect.

The end of a year is like a closing chapter in a book you’ve been writing. What did this chapter hold for you? Were there moments of joy or triumph you’d like to revisit in your memory? Perhaps it was a year of challenges, where you learned something new about yourself or leaned on others for support. Both deserve acknowledgment.

One gentle practice is to take out a piece of paper or a journal and write a short letter to the year 2024. Begin with “Dear 2024” and share your thoughts about the year as if it were an old friend you’re saying goodbye to. Write about what you’re thankful for, what you’ll miss, and even what you’re ready to leave behind. When you finish, you might find a sense of clarity—or even peace—emerging.

Now, as the new year begins, it’s a fresh chapter waiting to be written. The great thing about this chapter is that you get to decide its theme. Maybe it’s a year to focus on building or deepening friendships. Perhaps it’s time to explore a long-held dream, try a new hobby, or simply savor the small moments in everyday life. There’s no right or wrong way to approach the blank slate of a new year—only the way that feels most meaningful to you.

One exercise I often suggest is to pick a guiding word or phrase for the year. Words like “connection,” “curiosity,” or “gratitude” can serve as gentle reminders of how you want to approach your days. Write your word on a sticky note and place it where you’ll see it often—on the fridge, by your bedside, or even on your bathroom mirror. Remember that although you can’t control everything that happens, you can control what you give your attention to and what you focus on. 

Finally, let’s acknowledge the importance of grace—toward yourself and others. Life doesn’t always unfold as we hope or plan, but each day brings an opportunity to begin again. If you stumble, that’s okay. If you soar, celebrate!

As we step into the new year, I wish you moments of joy, reflection, and connection. The past year was one for the books, and the year ahead holds the promise of new beginnings. Here’s to embracing it all.

Warmest regards,

Dr. Vanessa Schaeffer